To the Right, To the Right...

Am I right in saying that, here in the Philippines, there is a stigma surrounding gay men? It seems as though if you are to say or be labeled as being gay, everyone thinks you want to be a girl, act like a girl, dress like a girl, and have their sex organs. NOT ME. I love my penis and I'm not trading it with anything else in the world.
Honestly though, gay men portrayed in film and television are always gay guys who are dressed up as women, who speak as though flowers and purses are falling out of their mouths, and so on and so forth. The thing is, it's not the case. Many men out there who are gay do not want to be women. They like the fact that they are guys, they just happen to like other guys.

I'm personally not saying it's wrong to be effiminate, but I think it's wrong that others generalize people in that one area. I have many friends back in Canada, who I know are gay, but they don't act like women, nor do they want to be women. They are top athletes, businessmen, gym junkies, do karate or martial arts and you see them doing everything that most straight men like to do, except for having sex with women. I know people like that here as well. So why must there be this stigma that all gay guys want to wear purses, skirts and lipstick and prance around in a field of flowers, holding their boyfriends hands all day? Those who want to be cross-dressers, those who want to be transgendered, you know...go ahead. I'm not stopping you or saying that what you want to do is wrong. The only thing for me is that I'm not like that, at all. Yes, I like boys(isn't it bovious?) but I don't want others to disregard me, judge me, and think that I can't do manly things, play sports, carry heavy load, and other stuff like that. Because I can. And I admit, it's not our faults that there are so many out there who still think that only real men can do those kind of things. Those barbaric, primeval minds are really nothing to worry myself about. I'm fairly sure I will seldom work or associate with those types, but it happens. And when it does, I don't want to be classified as such.

It's the one thing that is preventing me from YELLING to the world that I like guys. Actually I like that guy, the one over there, with the beautiful lips, the chubby cheeks, and oh so adorable eyes. That one! I can't proclaim to people how I really feel because I'm afraid it will affect me at work, at home, with my friends, etc. I never ever want to be introduced as, "Oh this is my gay friend, Jay." No. Do that to me once and you will most likely never get a reply from any msgs you send me on my phone! I wouldn't introduce you as, "Hi, this is my friend, he likes girls." Why? It's not the biggest part of me, it's just a part of me. It doesn't define me as a person. The little things that make up my personality...those are what define me as a person.

So...I'm letting out this big sigh as I end this post...."PHEEEEEW!" I finally got that out of my system. And imagine, I have no outlet of this here in the Philippines. I don't know anyone who is like me, as of yet. I don't know any straight-acting gay guys. If you are, and you want to talk, and you're willing to let me lash out all my frustrations at you..lol..then give me a shout. I need these guys so I can finally talk what I want to talk about.

Here are a few more pictures to soothe your mood.


This is Alex from Stormbreaker.


Bruno Schuind




Anyhow, that's all for now.

Twisted and Complicated,
Jay